Talking about sex with a parent can be a sticky situation—they might get all judgey and freak out or become overprotective and strange…but you’ve got to admit—your parents probably know you better than most people, right? Or if not better, at least in a different way than most people. So, regardless of the potential weirdness of the conversation, would you confide in your parents about your relationships? Or ask their advice on dating?
Do you think more guys talk to their dads than girls? Do you think more girls talk to their moms? In the comments, tell us if you’ve ever confided in your parents and, if so, whether you choose your mom or your dad.
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WHAT OTHER TEENS ARE SAYING:
I think that it is a good idea to sit and talk to your parents about your relationship and they can give you some general advice and things to look out for and to protect yourself from getting hurt
My mom is my best friend. I tell her everything and I know she will be there for be 100% of the time. She will never judge me or make me feel like a terrible person. She gives the best advice. She has more experience than I do and i trust that she has my best interest in mind. She honest but understanding. I wish everyone could have this type of relationship with their parents. Some parents just don’t know how to respond when their child has a question about sex or relationships and that why almost 50% of kids don’t talk to their parent. Parent should be seen as friend who want to help not someone who will judge you.
i can go to my mom and my dad and they give good feedback so i can make better decisions
I wouldnt because they may get all in my buisness and i would not really like that… i would talk to my friends about it.
no because my parents really dont need to know anything about my relationship. i mean yeah they would meat him and all but its my life not theirs.
Uh. Idk? :/ It depends. But I probably would because she’s sneaky and she’ll find out either way.
I can never quite grasp why sex and relationship talk is so taboo with some parents. Your son/daughter has a question, don’t be a schmuck and don’t be judgemental.
Okay, people, let’s have a talk on privacy. It is up to you based on what you want to tell. You do not have to be forced to tell anything that you do not want to tell. If it is your doctor, you answer truthfully. The point is, the only way that you can learn from your mistakes is if you talk about it when you feel like your ready. You may choose to keep it a secret, and that is okay. In the long run, if you do not want to share it, you do not have to share it.
My parents make fun of me, and say they’re just “Joking” when I talk about that stuff.
my dad will go hate me if I tell stuff like that for him. No chance
I might tell my mother but my dad no way! I would probably tell my mom about you know the relationship part but about the intimate stuff no no no no no
I would tell my mom but most likely refer to my grandfather he and I are alike we think alike and we are old fashion. It seems to be working pretty well for me past the fact that he thought me not to lie to well so I cant but I am seen by everyone as a nice person and I try my best to be
i wouldnt tell my parents anything. they are so old fashioned so i would most likely get judged.
I wouldn’t tell my dad but I do tell my mom everything. It was a little scary at first but I’m glad I did. She gives me good advice and helps me with my problems. She’s someone to talk to about it if I want to keep something private and she’s always there for me.
my mom will judge me and get upset…
i would not tell my parents they would judge me..
I’m going to be honest, I almost had sex with my boyfriend last night for the first time without telling my parents anything. We ended up not having sex because we both realized that we aren’t ready and that the potential risk was greater than the benefits, but my parents found out and were more hurt that I didn’t reach out to them beforehand than the fact that I was considering having sex at all. I would suggest, if you have a good relationship with your parents, to talk to them about these kinds of things before they happen. It will make them–and you–feel a lot better about what you’re doing.
Um no because i live with my dad and we have this funny relationship and i think if i talked to him about my boyfriend, he would feel awkward. I know its bad but i dont tell my dad anything about my relationships.
49% said it was TMI , are you kidding me . I have the best relationship with my mother , an I tell her a lot . an ever sense I started doing that , I’ve gotten a lot of free roaming room. she doesn’t treat me like a child anymore maybe two years I’ve been doing that. so at the age of 16 . now I’m 18 an have a great relationship with my mother . TMI isn’t to much for your family
my mom will want me to go on a date with him her and his parents so i wouldnt
To the girls and guys that are scared to talk to your parents about your sex life:
The worst thing you can do is hide it from them because they will find out sooner or later.
The trust you and are more comfortable when you talk to them about when it happened or if it’s going to happen.
I have even had the pregnancy scare and mom was calm.
They stay calm. They DON’T look at you different because you are the same kid they love and cared for all the years before. It’s all a part of life. I recommend you are 15 or older if you recommend trying things with a guy you think you like or love. Be VERY careful who you give it up to because you never know if they will leave you or if they could have STDs.
I’m not here to affend anyone but here to give advice because I have been threw it all and experienced it.
I would so tell my mom I mean it better than keeping things from her
Okay this is going to sound crazy but I had sex June 13 2013 and the guy went to the bathroom and called my mom to tell her. And I didn’t know he did so I was not going to tell her well when I got home that next morning she ask me if I had a great time I said ya then the next think that come out of her mouth was time to go to the doctor and be on birth control I said what why she said well your boyfriend called me last night after u had sex and told me before u could. Ever since then she trust him we have been together since June 13 2007.
Yes talk with mom so if something bad would happen they can know how to take care of the situation.
Well me and my bf wanna have sex and I haven’t done it yet and I don’t no if I could tell my mom after I do or before I do that I had sex I’m just afraid that she won’t let me see him again or will get really mad at me and she asked me if maybe I needed birth control and I said no cause I didn’t want her to think I was doing it and I’m just scared that she will think of me differently and I don’t want that me and her have a great relationship and I feel that if I do have sex that it won’t be the same what do I do.
I need help! i had sex with my girlfriend and now i think she’s pregnant we are so young 14 and we both have our whole lives ahead of us we talked about it last night when she took the test (It was positive) plus her dads a cop and might kill me because he wasn’t shire about us dating in the first place since in 15 please help i need input.
i do have a boyfriend but im too freaked out to tell my mom
I think no…I wanted to tell my mom but I know my mom would freak out…so yeah noo
Im scared she might flip out and think Im having sex and my dad would either kill me or ground me forever
No because I am scared to ask my parents because they might yell at me and think I am having sex
When i tried talking to her about it she didnt talk to me for a while
It depends on what kind of people your parents are…. I wouldn’t tell my mom if I were in love with someone or having sex…. TMI and she is REALLY strict like grounded for life for even mentioning it……… But if you have parents that are cool and chill with it and aren’t going to freak out and start lecturing you about why that is a bad idea and how terribly stupid that is……… If you trust them and they trust you and you have that type of relationship with them like an open one than yeah, but not everyone has that 😉
I think it depends on the person. If you’re a person who has a close relationship with their mom then thats okay. But for others its hard because they dont trust their moms.
tomorrow. im planning to tell my mom about my secret relationship, but i have a doubt, I love my boyfriend and I cant let him go. What if my mom wouldnt allow me? What am i going to do?
So I’m a 14 yr old guy. My parents are always trying to help me. My mom wants to know who I like and stuff like that. My dad wants to know and I told him and he said okay and told me that I should just wait until high school (next year). Talking with your parents can help you.
Okay so I do agree that teens should talk to our parents about are relationships. Then again we don’t need to tell them everything. All they need to know is that we are in a relationship. My dad is a terrible person and he did some terrible things. Now that hes not in my life anymore i don’t like to get close to people anymore. The bottom line is if you don’t want to start talking about you relationships with your parents thats fine. Just come out when your ready. 🙂
I tell my mother who i like and stuff but not about me dating them because my parents don’t let me date because they say thats how girls end up getting Pregnet and stuff (you dont have to have sex just because your dating btw). I just kinda keep it on low profile.
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no because my family would make it awkward and just start talking about sex and stds
Yeah, I think it is true that guys mostly talk to their dad and girls talk to their mom. I personally like to talk to my dad just because he is better with advice and is ALWAYS there for me (my mom is too but my dad is more) and can talk me through things.
My parent’s trust me enough to come to them. While they don’t expect every little detail, they know that if something happened, no matter how bad, I could go to them.
I dont really talk to anybody about that stuff except to my best freind from school. I dont have a dad anymore and i cant tell my mom one thing or secret without her telling everybody she knows witch sucks so i would choose neither
Heck no, talking about sex, with parents, what kind of B**** do you think I am?
It all depends on what it is specifically about to be honest. Some things I don’t feel comfortable delving into with them.
When i was younger my father died i mean i never knew him but at the same time i wish i did. dealing and living with just one parent is hard because u would want to have a great relationship with that parent but im far from that because my mom just dont know how to talk to a teen. Im 18 and my mom doesnt know anything about my sex life i would love to tell her everything but i cant so its life and i guess you move on.
At first, I didnt tell them anything. Ive done nothing wrong in terms of boys, so I let them find out. They would see me with my boyfriend walking round, and they knew him, so it was. But after that, I was dating another guys and the whole thing turned out a little bit problematic. I told my mom on the phone, because I didnt dare to tell her face to face, and she was the most supportive and helpful person that I could have ever had by my side. I am very happy that I told her, and since then (i was 17), ive told her basically everything. Including things about sex… I mean, I know she will keep my secret. I know she will support me as long as I want to do things right, and she is definitely experienced (she had me , right?).
Regarding my dad, he has always known and sometime I would tell him. I dont make him sit in a table with me to have a serious conversation but I tell him casually. I dont want to make him uncomfortable. My dad said once to my mom, very wisely “i’d rather feel awkward once and tell her everything about sex than have a teenage mom at home”.
Parents are the closest people that have been where we are now. Dont forget!
I don’t talk to my parents about boys I like because they get mad and tell me that I’m not allowed to date. They control my life and honestly I can’t wait to move out.
it would be wayyyy to awkward to talk to my parents… they wont even let me curse
I really trust my mom and she’s my best friend so yes I feel comfortable telling her stuff about my boyfriend..
I think that people should wait till it is time to do sex. Sometimes things happen when you don’t expect it… but some people are under pressure and they end up doing it. Some people aren’t able to tell their parents… things so strong like their personal lives. Sooner or later you parents will find out…
i think it is a great idea to tell your parents about your relationships. At frst i didnt tell my mom anything, then one day i had to. i told her everything about me what i have done and what i have wanted to do. she accpeted my decisons even though they werent the best ones but i love my mom nd she loves me. her wprds were that she was a teenager once so, she knows how it goes. she doesnt like it half the time but i do tell her. be trueful to your parents and they’ll give you a lot more respect mine did. thank you, bye.
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