He loves me, he loves me not. If only understanding relationships was as easy as picking the petals off a flower, we'd all be a lot less stressed…and a lot of bloggers, writers, and pay-by-the-minute advice phone lines would be out of business. So how do you know what's going on in your relationship? Are you just friends? Are you something more? Sometimes you just know. But sometimes, you actually have to ask and have the dreaded DTR talk.
We've all been there. But ultimately, each DTR (while awkward and stressful for you AND, presumably, the other person) should end up clarifying the relationship. Either you realize things are going nowhere and save yourself the extra months of working on a failing relationship, or you learn that there’s potential in something you thought couldn't possibly work. Yes—DTRs can suck. But they can also be really enlightening.
In the comments, tell us about your best or your worst DTR.
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WHAT OTHER TEENS ARE SAYING:
I told a boy i loved him and he replied with “thats nice”
yes we had a talk and did well we are very happy
Okay, so, I personally believe that people must learn from their mistakes. With that being said, I think that people need to learn what love is. In Frozen, Olaf put what love is in an amazing way: Love is putting someone else’s before yours. Love is not just glittery romance beside candlelight. You can not choose someone because they look good. A strong relationship is built on honesty and friendship. You need to spend time with that person as well. If you are beginning to hear stuff from other people, then you might want to leave the relationship ASAP. Or, you can talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend just to discover the truth. In the end, that is my response.
well, i once had a DTR talk with my boyfriend, who is now my ex. he told me he loved me but i think i pretty much prefered when i had not had the talk… it made me believe i could just back out whenever i wanted and i was just having fun.. so when we had the talk it made me realise that he wanted something serious and i didnt so we just parted ways.. after a while i realised i loved but he was already with someone else..sad
Yes, I had a DTR talk with my boyfriend a couple of weeks into when we started to date. I was hearing rumors about him and his reputation and my brother was telling me stuff about him too. So I talked to him I was like, “Look, I am pretty serious about this relationship, I want us to be together for a long time. I’ve been hearing crap from everyone about you. Now if this relationship is all about being physical, we should just end it now.” After I said that, he assured me that its not about being physical for him. He wants a serious relationship because he’s older. I believed him, others still have their doubts, but I believe in our relationship and I’m glad we had that talk. It made us get closer together and it paved a way for openness in our relationship.
The first time I had to DTR talk was probably my most embarrassing one ever.. We had been going to the movies or hanging out after school and doing the cute little stuff(like the little kids do) and my friends showed up….they started teasing us about being a couple….I yelled out, “STOP! I don’t even know if we are a couple..” They all just kind of looked at me.. Then I looked at the boy and said, “Well its your turn to butt in, now what are?? We have been doing playful stuff but nothing serious, and I want serious, so tell me.” Then all of a sudden he walked over to my best friend and made out with her! Gosh was I mad but that “adventure” taught me about two face liars… And that everybody was my first DTR.. -_-
YESSSSSS you just have to get the point across
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