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What if the guy you like is to busy to hang out or text?

This is a tough one. On one hand, when you think about school, extracurricular activities, work, and chores, it’s hard to see how anyone has time to date. If you feel like this guy is not texting back because he’s terrible at managing his time, it might be worth it to give him a second chance by nailing down solid plans with him and seeing how hanging out goes. If he’s really busy, suggest that you study for the math test you have next week or watch the movie version of the book you’re supposed to be reading for English class. If he continues to blow you off, it might be time to find someone new. If you really like a someone, you’ll make the time to see them, and if he can’t make that commitment, he might not be worth your time.

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My ex-boyfriend started talking to again, right after the holidays. I still have a major crush on him, but I don't want him knowing. Should I think he was just trying to be nice? Or should I think he wants to go out again?

The only way to know for sure what your ex is thinking is to ask him. An honest conversation between the two of you should clear up any confusion about where you stand in the relationship. If you’re not comfortable having that conversation with him yet, it’s safe to continue talking to him under the assumption that he just wants to get back into being friends with you. It might not have anything to do with a crush or something he feels like he has to do to “be nice!” It can be tough, but people who break up can definitely find their way back to friendship after the relationship ends.

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I'm still in love with my ex...idk how to get over him. Advice?

Sometimes it’s hard to get over someone if you’re always tempted to check their tweets or see what pictures they’ve uploaded to Facebook—it’s okay to defriend or hide someone’s updates when you’re trying to get over them. Sometimes you just need a break, and if taking away the temptation to see what your ex is up to via social media helps you get some distance, it could be a good plan, even if you just do it temporarily!

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How do I deal with my crush having a gf?

Crushes can be really difficult—you’re not dating the person, but they’re always on your mind, and it can really hurt if they start dating someone else. If you’re driving yourself nuts looking at pictures of your crush and his new boo, it might be time to unfollow or block him from your newsfeed, even if it’s just for a few weeks. It’s almost impossible to get over someone when you’re constantly tempted to stalk them on social media, but if he’s with someone else, moving on is your only option right now.

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How do you get over someone that's already taken?

Getting over someone who is already taken can be really hard. If you feel comfortable keeping that person in your life as a friend, that can be a good option for still hanging out with them with the freedom to see other people. That can be really hard though, and it takes time to have your feelings change from romance to friendship! If you’re not there yet, distancing yourself from the person, even if it’s just temporary, can really help you to get over your crush. This can mean unfollowing them on social media, taking the time to hang out with other people, or starting a new activity that you’ve always wanted to try that takes you outside of your comfort zone! Distancing yourself or distracting yourself with a new friend or activity are great ways to start moving on from a crush.

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Is it love when you guys tease each other and are always talking and hanging out?

That depends! Teasing and hanging out a lot aren’t always signs that two people are crushing on each other, but that definitely could be the case. If you’re feeling more than friendship toward this person and feel comfortable talking to them about how they feel about your relationship, that’s definitely the most direct way of figuring out where you stand. They might not feel the same way, but if you guys have a strong friendship it might be a little awkward, but it shouldn’t change things all that much. It’s always tough to hear that someone doesn’t return your feelings, but at least that will give you the chance to move on before the crush crushes you. And who knows? They might feel the same way and not know how to bring it up. Either way, an honest conversation will help you get to the bottom of where you and this friend stand in your relationship. Going from a friendship to a relationship can be a little bit tricky, but it’s definitely possible!

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Me and my ex were together for around 2 years and then suddenly he ended it. Those two years were the best I've had, we spent as much time as we could together, we never fought, we made each other laugh, we complimented each other constantly, and then out of no where he dumps me. We both had this one friend (the same person) and he never wanted us together because he liked me and the night my ex ended it he said something had happened between him and that one friend so it could be because my friend got in the way. I still think about him constantly l, wish we were still together, miss him, talk to him, compliment him, admire him, and wish everything was back to the way it was. When I bring this up with him he says he has mixed emotions and says he has to do something and that he'll text me in 5 minutes but never does or just stops responding. Do you think he still loves me? Do you think it's possible hat we could get back together? Is it love?

It’s totally normal to be missing your ex after the relationship ends, especially since you guys had such a long relationship that ended suddenly. That said, getting back together with an ex is a tricky business. It’s not impossible, but you guys broke up for a reason. It sounds like you’ve tried to talk to this guy about your relationship and he’s kind of brushed it off. That really hurts, but it might be a sign that he doesn’t want to get back together, or doesn’t think that the relationship is repairable. You can try talking to him or talking to your other friend again, making it clear that you would really like closure to move on, but understand that you might be met with the same promises to talk about it later that might not ever be fulfilled. Breakups are really tough, but you deserve to be with someone who cares about you and is open and honest about their feelings with you, so it might be time to move on from this guy if he’s not willing to work things out.

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I like this guy and he's flirting with me, but his best friend has a major crush on me, and the guy I like knows his best friend wants me. How am I to ask the guy I like out but also not hurt the other guy’s heart?

This is a tough one, and it might not be possible for everyone in this situation to make it out without hurt feelings. If you guys are all friends, it can be tough for two members of the group to start dating, especially if the other friend has feelings for you. That doesn’t mean that you and this guy shouldn’t start a relationship, but it does mean that you need to consider the impact of that relationship on this guy’s friend. If he has feelings for you and you don’t feel the same way, it’s likely that he’ll be hurt when you start dating his friend, but you don’t need to sacrifice your happiness to keep this guy from feeling hurt, especially if you don’t return his feelings. What you do need to do is be conscious of how hurt he might feel, and try to be sensitive to how he’s feeling. Crushes can be really hard, and while his feelings for you shouldn’t stop you from starting a relationship with someone else, it might be nice to let him know how much you value you as a friend, and let him know that you’re there to talk if he needs you.

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I care about him more than anything, but i catch myself doing everything I can to get away from him. We have been dating for 2+ years and I was attatched, but I dont like being tied down. I dont ever want to see him with anyone else, but I want to be free at the same time.. Is it love?

It could be that you’re freaked out by the idea of commitment, or it could be that your feelings about this guy have changed, in which case it might be time to move on. The bottom line is that you know yourself best—if you’re catching yourself wishing that you were free, it might be time to end the relationship. You can’t ignore these feelings, and if you feel like you don’t want to be in a relationship right now, even if you still really like the guy, you might want to consider ending things or at least having an honest conversation with your boyfriend about how you’ve been feeling. It’s not fair to either one of you to continue acting like nothing has changed in your relationship, and if you don’t get these feelings out in the open, there’s no way to figure out if the relationship can be saved.

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We've been dating a little over a year and he's the most amazing guy. Super nice and a major cuddler. We haven't even had a single argument our entire relationship (it helps that we're a lot alike)! Lately we've been talking about getting more serious than hanging out though, possibly doing something along the lines of sex (I would like to add that we will be using multiple kinds of protection, as he insists and I have no wish to be pregnant right now). I'm all for it, though I will admit that I feel very nervous about taking my clothes off, as I'm not too happy with my body. So, haha, question. How can I get over my insecurities and nerves so that we can start getting more serious?

Everyone has things that they’re insecure about, and it’s really tough to just let them go. Definitely don’t do anything that you’re not comfortable with. It’s obvious that you really like this guy, and if he likes you too, he’s not going anywhere. You’ve been together for a while and he’s gotten to know and love you for you, without seeing you in the same critical light that you see yourself in. If you need to take a little more time before you guys get physical, that’s totally okay and normal—there’s no set time in a relationship when you’re supposed to have sex. It might be a good idea to talk to him about how you’re feeling. Getting more serious in your relationship should be fun, so it’s best to get all of your concerns out in the open and figure out together how you can both feel comfortable before you move forward. He probably has a couple insecurities of his own, so talking could be super helpful! It might feel a little awkward to bring up, but it also might help you both feel a lot better.

On another note, it’s awesome that you guys have already talked about protection! That shows a lot of maturity in a relationship. If you have any questions about other types of birth control or want to see all of the options that are available to you, check out our Birth Control Explorer or give your doc a call.

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I have a crush on this girl. She pretended to like me on Instagram, but then revealed it was a joke. I have never had a girlfriend before. She still acts nice to me on Instagram, but does she like me?

What a terrible joke. This girl might be acting nice now because she realizes how hurtful she was before, or because she wants to be friends, but either way you deserve better people in your life. There are people out there who won’t like you as a “joke,” and they are a better option for a relationship. If you’re feeling pressure because you haven’t had a girlfriend yet, don’t worry. Plenty of people don’t date until high school or beyond, and there’s no timeline for when in your life you’re supposed to start dating. It’s better to be in a relationship where both people love and respect one another than to date just to hit the milestone. If you feel like you need closure with this girl or really want to figure out what her motivation for talking to you is, you could have a conversation with her. Let her know how hurt you were and that you want to clear up where you stand with her. In terms of getting over her, it might be worth it to unfollow her on Instagram, even just temporarily, because it’s really hard to get over someone when you’re constantly seeing pictures of them.

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This guy I like isn't too talkative, and he's always hanging with his friends so I never have the opportunity to talk to him. How do I talk to him?

Talking to someone you like can be scary, so it can be really helpful to start with topics that you’re comfortable talking about, even if they seem a little boring to you. Are you guys in any classes together? Try bringing up a really tough assignment or an upcoming test—it might turn into the opportunity for a study date. You can also talk about stuff outside of academics, like how a club you’re both in is going, or how the school basketball team is playing this year. If you’re looking for a topic outside of school, ask him if he’s seen any of the Oscar-nominated movies, or ask about his favorite sports team. These topics might seem like they won’t lead anywhere, but talking about anything with your crush can help lay the foundation for a friendship. You said that this guy isn’t very talkative, so see if there’s a topic that really interests him that might draw him out of his shell a bit

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My crush is to busy too hang out... Every time I ask, he's busy... He told me he likes me, but know I'm beginning to doubt that...What do I do? Move on or wait it out?

Successful relationships require spending time together, and it seems like this guy isn’t giving you the chance to figure out whether or not you’d work as a couple. He’s sending mixed signals, which can be really confusing—he says he likes you, but he never seems to find the time to hang out with you. A relationship can’t happen just through texting. A couple things could be happening here. It’s possible that he has terrible time management skills, in which case you might want to suggest a way to hang out that combines something he needs to do (like studying for a science test or watching a movie for history) with seeing you. It’s also possible that his feelings have changed, in which case he’s dealing with that in a way that’s not fair to you, which might mean that it’s time to move on. The other possibility is that he’s freaked out by the thought of moving from friendship to relationship—and that’s something that can be scary. In any case, the best way to get to the bottom of what’s going on with this guy is to have an honest conversation with him. It might feel a little weird to bring up, but you deserve to know exactly where you stand with this guy, and a conversation will help you figure out if he’s worth your time.

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This summer my crush is coming back from college and we'll be together all summer. We both like each other, time has just never lined up so we haven't gotten together. Is it finally going to happen?

It’s hard to say this far in advance. From what you wrote, it seems like a relationship is possible if the timing is right. One thing to keep in mind is that unless you guys have agreed to get together, you have no obligation to say no to that cute guy from your math class if he asks you out. If you’re feeling pressure to wait until your crush is home so you can date him, you might want to have a talk about where the relationship is headed to make sure that you guys are on the same page. You don’t want to put your dating life on hold for a guy who doesn’t have the same thing in mind, and an honest conversation is the best way to figure out where his head is at. That said, if you feel like you want to take a break from dating, or if you and this guy decide to wait and try a relationship in the summer, that’s also totally cool. Summer love can be tricky, especially if you guys will be separated in the fall. You don’t have to figure everything out right now, but it’s definitely fair game to talk about what your dating plans are before the summer starts.

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I'm stuck in love with a girl I've liked her for awhile but she likes someone else please help..

It’s really tough to get over someone that you’ve liked for so long, even if you guys weren’t actually dating. Throwing yourself into a new activity or spending extra time with friends and family should take your mind off her, at least for a bit. It’s okay to be sad about a crush that didn’t work out, but realize that there are other people out there and that you deserve to be in a relationship where both people are equally invested in each other. If it’s painful to see her updates on social media, it’s okay to unfriend or unfollow her, even just for a little while. It’s really tough to get over someone when you’re constantly seeing their tweets or are tempted to look through their Facebook photos, so you have to do what’s best for you right now.

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