Personally, I’m still catching up on this season, so when I came across the episode titled Too Close for Comfort, I was taken a little aback. It was exciting, heavy, and funny. I’m warning you all that there are spoilers here!

 

The episode begins with Carrie Bradshaw’s sexual awakening; as you might expect, it’s juicy and full of surprises. To recap, Carrie is dating Weaver, navigating old feelings for Sebastian, and is a virgin at the beginning of the episode. One of the biggest problems with the episode is that Carrie’s closest friends are all having sex. She hears about it and knows she’s in a relationshipthat is probably headed that way, too. But because she’s a virgin, she doesn’t want to scare Weaver away, or make a big deal about her first time.

 

Guys, I’ll tell you one thing for sure. Your virginity—and having sex in general—is a big thing! It’s something that should be talked about; not negatively or to make fun of it, but seriously because…well…it is kind of a big deal. Having sex for the first time can be really awkward, and, in this case, The Carrie Diaries made it seem perfect and easy. But there’s more to it than talking about it for a few minutes, magically having the right moment where everything is perfect.

 

Carrie thinks that it may be better to lie about not being a virgin and have sex with Weaver, than let him know and think she’s a dork, prude, or whatever. I completely disagree! Telling your partner about your sexual history or lack thereof is a huge part of having sex. If you haven’t had sex yet, and they have, then they should know all the better just how weird it can be. Plus, if either of you have been sexually active in the past, there’s the question of STIs and whether you’ve been tested; if you haven’t, you should get tested before having another sexual relationship. If you’re both virgins, talking about sex and preparing better can make it so much easier emotionally and physically. Regardless of whether you’ve had sex or you’re a virgin, a huge piece of the conversation should be birth control—what you’re going to use, what your partner is going to use, and how you’ll make sure you’re both protected from pregnancy and diseases. And after talking about it, if it turns out that you don’t feel ready, there is no rush, and you are part of a growing part of the population who is waiting!

 

To me, the episode felt rushed and like it didn’t really take into account what really happens when people have sex for the first time. There is no correct formula to having sex for the first time, it varies for everyone. A definite first on your way to having sex though should always be talking about it. Talk about it with your friends, your intended partner and talk about protection! Having sex even once without condoms (maleor female) or birth control like the pill, the ring, shotor implantcan cause a pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (STIs)!

 

Did you see the episode? If so, what did you think? Do you think TV shows are generally pretty good at showing sex accurately?

 

What We’re Watching is a new feature where we break down what we’re watching each week. We’ve scoured television listings, YouTube, Twitter, and reached into the depths of the Internet to bring you awesome stuff to watch and learn from. Watching something we’re not? Let us know and we’ll take a look!Personally, I’m still catching up on this season, so when I came across the episode titled Too Close for Comfort, I was taken a little aback. It was exciting, heavy, and funny. I’m warning you all that there are spoilers here!

 

The episode begins with Carrie Bradshaw’s sexual awakening; as you might expect, it’s juicy and full of surprises. To recap, Carrie is dating Weaver, navigating old feelings for Sebastian, and is a virgin at the beginning of the episode. One of the biggest problems with the episode is that Carrie’s closest friends are all having sex. She hears about it and knows she’s in a relationship that is probably headed that way, too. But because she’s a virgin, she doesn’t want to scare Weaver away, or make a big deal about her first time.

 

Guys, I’ll tell you one thing for sure. Your virginity—and having sex in general—is a big thing! It’s something that should be talked about; not negatively or to make fun of it, but seriously because…well…it is kind of a big deal. Having sex for the first time can be really awkward, and, in this case, The Carrie Diaries made it seem perfect and easy. But there’s more to it than talking about it for a few minutes, magically having the right moment where everything is perfect.

 

Carrie thinks that it may be better to lie about not being a virgin and have sex with Weaver, than let him know and think she’s a dork, prude, or whatever. I completely disagree! Telling your partner about your sexual history or lack thereof is a huge part of having sex. If you haven’t had sex yet, and they have, then they should know all the better just how weird it can be. Plus, if either of you have been sexually active in the past, there’s the question of STIs and whether you’ve been tested; if you haven’t, you should get tested before having another sexual relationship. If you’re both virgins, talking about sex and preparing better can make it so much easier emotionally and physically. Regardless of whether you’ve had sex or you’re a virgin, a huge piece of the conversation should be birth control—what you’re going to use, what your partner is going to use, and how you’ll make sure you’re both protected from pregnancy and diseases. And after talking about it, if it turns out that you don’t feel ready, there is no rush, and you are part of a growing part of the population who is waiting!

 

To me, the episode felt rushed and like it didn’t really take into account what really happens when people have sex for the first time. There is no correct formula to having sex for the first time, it varies for everyone. A definite first on your way to having sex though should always be talking about it. Talk about it with your friends, your intended partner and talk about protection! Having sex even once without condoms (male or female) or birth control like the pill, the ring, shot or implant can cause a pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (STIs)!

 

Did you see the episode? If so, what did you think? Do you think TV shows are generally pretty good at showing sex accurately?

 

What We’re Watching is a new feature where we break down what we’re watching each week. We’ve scoured television listings, YouTube, Twitter, and reached into the depths of the Internet to bring you awesome stuff to watch and learn from. Watching something we’re not? Let us know and we’ll take a look!

 

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