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But Do You Like Like Them?

Six signs you like them...like them

Sometimes it can be hard to admit you have a crush on someone. Especially when that someone is a person you consider a friend. Curious if what you feel is just friendship or something more? Here's how to tell.

You’ll go out of your way to see them. Of course it's natural to accept minor inconveniences or modify your schedule in order to hang out with your friends. But if you notice that you're willing to do seemingly anything to make time to see someone, or you're dropping other plans at the last minute because they asked you to do something—that might be the sign of a crush. When you have a crush on someone, being around them is one of the most fun things you can do, so very likely, you'll be doing all that you can to make that happen.

You would do things with them you’d never do on your own. When you have a crush on someone doing anything with them is fun. So if you catch yourself doing activities or attending events you would never be interested in on your own—and being excited about them!—it’s a sure sign you’re crushing.

In a room full of people, they’re always on your radar. Answer me this: when you're hanging out with a group of people, at any moment could you locate exactly where your "friend" is? Is it like they're wearing a GPS chip connected to your brain and you're sort of just always "aware" of their whereabouts? When you like someone, you automatically pay more attention to them even if you don't know you're doing it.

You feel extra excited to see them. It's always exciting to hang out with friends, especially if you haven't seen them in a while.  But there's excited and then there's EXCITED. Having butterflies in your stomach, or even feeling a little nervous in anticipation of seeing someone can mean you like them as more than just a friend.

Feel tinges of jealousy when they talk about their crushes. Now this one is huge. When someone is just a friend, talking with them about their crushes is really fun. It's fun to joke about, analyze, fantasize, and have a little secret together everywhere you go. If someone is more than a friend, when they talk about someone being cute, or having a crush, you might feel a little sting. Or, you might find yourself comparing yourself to that person, or even putting them down.

You think about them a lot when they’re not around. A good way to tell if you have a crush on someone is to examine how much of your mental energy is dedicated to thinking about them. You know that cheesy pick up line, "Girl you must be tired because you've been running through my head all day"? Well, it sorta makes sense because when you like someone you’re probably thinking about them a lot.

If you’ve just read through this article and you’re thinking, “OMG yes, I definitely have a crush on my ‘friend,’” don’t freak.  Just because you have a crush doesn’t mean you have to tell anyone about it. That being said, it is always good to admit how you’re feeling to yourself. That way, if you start to feel taken advantage of in the friendship because of your deeper feelings, you can recognize it and take steps to make the relationship more balanced.  

Author: Amber M.
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