Would you consider dating someone if you knew that they believed in abstinence until marriage?
In your grandparent’s day and maybe even in your parents it wasn’t uncommon for people to wait until after they’d tied the knot to have sex. This generation is a different story. Sex is very much a part of teen culture. If you don’t believe it, read the lyrics to Katy Perry’s “Teenage Dream”. It’s in our TV shows, music, and magazines. It’d be easy to look at this generation’s obsession with sex and assume that everyone is having it, but what about those teens who still want to wait?
The temptation to have sex, especially as a teen, is no doubt great. Believe it or not, there are teen couples who don’t even kiss in order to avoid the temptation. Some might call this extreme, while others might see it as romantic. It’s easy if you both agree, but what if you like someone who has different beliefs about sex before marriage than you do? Would you respect their beliefs or drop them like a bad habit? Let us know what you think!
The temptation to have sex, especially as a teen, is no doubt great. Believe it or not, there are teen couples who don’t even kiss in order to avoid the temptation. Some might call this extreme, while others might see it as romantic. It’s easy if you both agree, but what if you like someone who has different beliefs about sex before marriage than you do? Would you respect their beliefs or drop them like a bad habit? Let us know what you think!
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WHAT OTHER TEENS ARE SAYING:
cool..... i guess?
i would obviously respect their decision. because i have the same view point. i believe in waiting untill marriage. and luckily thats how my boyfriend feels also. i found a good one. and im lucky that i found one as amazing as him
I don't want to marry someone for sex and I'd rather know as much as I could about them in every possible way before I even considered marrying them. I'd respect their views but they have to respect mines too. There has to be a middle point. It takes two to make a relationship. Plus, with how much people divorce each other these days it's very realistic to believe that you won't even be with that person for the rest of your life. That's just how I see it.
Of course, because I share the same beliefs, I'm going to honor God's pure plan for me to honor my body because it is not my own, it's God's, my body is a temple for the Holy Spirit, and God has the man of my dreams already picked out for me for marriage for us to enjoy sex then, having sex with only my perfect mate made for me in Heaven. :) Our relationship would be stronger and I'd be more sure he loved me for me and not just to have sex all the time.
I think that if you are happy together and you are for sure that he/she is the one, then you should have sex, you shouldn't wait I'm 17 and a mom and engaged to the father of my child I love him to death and we are going to be together forever of coarse our daughter Zenna wasn't planned but we love her to death there is no doubt about that so if your happy and you truly love eachother and it isnt just a booty call , then yes have sex:)
i believe that it is the right decision to wait until marrige
that way there are no issues about who the father is
if you get pregnant you dont have to feel rushed into getting married because u already r
i do respect the ones who have a different opinion
if i didn't believe the way i did i would probably say wait until you are sure u r in love with this person
someone who really cares about you
Yes. i would totally respect there decision because if i cared about them i would.
i would still go with him because i share the same view of waiting till your married to have sex
Of course i would. If the person im with ment a lot to me, id do anything for them.
I just turned 20 and I started dating this really awesome guy, but he doesn't share my beliefs in purity and abstinence. I really like him; however, I would end things if he did not respect my stance. Losing your virginity is not something you can take back. I want to honor my body, my religion, and my parents. If he doesn't get that, then he can walk.
i think that people that dump people for waiting are shallow.It shows that person (wether a guy or girl) only want sex. The bible says to wait and so do i. If you dont wait thats your choice but i believe in saving sex until marrige. I prefer to finish high school and finish college and get a job so i dont have to struggle all my life.
NO, THERE IS NO WAY I WOULD WAIT FOR HIM... IF YOU DNT WANNA HAVE SEX BYE... I LOVE DHA PLEASURE I GET FROM SEX... SO NO BOYS IF YOU ARE PRACTICING ABSTINENCE I DNT WANT YHU
I believe that if you are with the right person sex before marriage is not wrong. But this is only the case if both people in the relationship feel the same way and can trust one another. If my partner didn't want to have sex until marriage or were not ready at the time i would respect them and hope that they would do the same for me
I think that we all know what we're doing and if someone has sex they should do it because they want to. I honestly think that when someone starts having sex it does become part of their daily life style I can't live without it and in some cases it does strengthen a relationship. Many might see sex as a bad thing but if its with the right person I don't think one necessarily has to wait until after marriage. Its a wonderful moment especially if its with someone you trust love and care about <3
I am abstinent and it is really hard to find someone who can just love me despite my whole no sex rule, so I haven't had a boyfriend in a while. But I stay positive and hope for the best! :D
I would love to wait until marriage- the only problem is finding a guy who will too...
im a person who believes in that cause i want my first time to be with someone I truly love and not someone who when i wake up the next morning may be gone and maybe never see again
I'm abstinent and proud I'm still a virgin and don't believe till sex after marriage
trust and time is more important than sex thank about the other persons feelings.
im a freshma in highschoool and i went and had sex with about 5 diffrent guys. i know what you're thinking SLUT. reallly theres more to the background story but my point is i thought that itd be fun, sure it was but it also broke my heart. Everyone knew and the guys didnt care. Now im in a serious realationship and when we did it i found myself comparing it to one of them because he was a virgin & it wasnt the same. so WAIT its not worth t you will always carry that arounf. When you love somene thats when it should be an option. Please just think about it. what if you get pregnant,what if he tells everyoe and your parents find out.....WAIT.
I had sex for the first time at 15 years old. Now that I am 26 and in a long term relationship, I regret having sex so young. I don't say wait for marriage, I say wait till later. Think about your actions. If you are old enough to properly care for a child; do it. Don't do it with everyone and use protection(condoms and birth control), but if you wish to have sex with your boyfriend...why not? Just be smart about it To those who have decided to wait till marriage, more power and respect towards you. In this day and age, it's hard, but I wish you the best. Sex before marriage is a personal choice; and should be done ONLY after thinking about if you can handle what may come from it. Think about how years from now you'll have to tell your S.O that you've had sex with "insert number" of people, or being a teen mom. How will that make you feel?
yes i would because i am not the type to rush things
I wouldnt wait for them. how terrible would it be to wait, get married, and then be with someone who has no idea what theyre doing sex-wise.
okay all you guys are gonna wait until marriage and then get a divorce later anyway so... Sex is not that big of a deal. Im not saying go around and have sex with everyone and anyone but seriously you act like your gonna die if you do it.
Personally, I think sex should be saved for marriage because that is the way God intended it to be.
This is actually a fear of mine, because I want to stay abstinent until marriage. I have fear that no one will date me for this reason. even my boyfriend (who i met at church) judges me about this. I don't know what to do, and this pole interested me a lot because of that.
I 100% agree with sex AFTER marriage. I'm virgin and I'm proud of it! I made a promise to God not to have sex before marriage, and I'm sticking to it. If a person really loves you, they can wait. They will wait. I know someone who's been in the same relationship with a guy for 15 years (and counting) and they haven't had sex because they're waiting until marriage. And birth control doesn't always work! I volunteer at hospitals, and I have seen girls who are giving birth younger than I am. I've even seen people get HIV from sex, and their boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't have it because they're just a carrier. These people are slowly dying and their bf/gf has left them and left their baby.
i'm totally waiting! i'm a virgin and DEFINITELY proud of it!
I think waiting is good.
Yes, in fact feel the same way :) waiting till marriage is the best decision!
Sex is a big step in a relationship. I believe that God intended for us to wait until marriage, or rather wait until you absolutely know the one you want to be intimate with is that one and only person for you. It's your decision, but remember the consequences of becoming intimate. Condoms and birth control don't always protect against pregnancy nor do they protect against STD/VD. Just remember the consequences and it's completely your decision! Don't be afraid to stay abstinent! It's your body and use it to GLORIFY GOD!
I have a boy friend, and me and him made a pack to be abstinent. sex is a big decision , you need to know when u really to do it. I do want to have sex , but when iam ready and with the right guy and I know we are in love. I think the best way to know is when u are married and want to spend the rest of your lives together that how u really know in my beliefs.
I would date them because sex isn't all that important and it shouldn't be the basis of ANY relationship.
Alright, I'm christian, but if i wanna have sex, i will. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and his MOM bought him condoms, he told me but he said its too early, and i agreed. I probably wont wait till marriage, but its my decision. My mom told me if i ever wanted to have sex, just to tell her so she can put me on birth control. its a big deal of course, but its up to you. listen to your heart
im seventeen and i had believed in abstinence but ended up meeting a terrific guy who im still with and we ended up having a baby. if you are gonna have sex you have to be ready to change your relationship dynamic. it wont just be going out and having fun but also having responsibilities and issues youll have to deal with. it will still be good but its alot more work. so just be prepared to grow up fast if your having sex.
i want a kid so bad. i mean everyone at school spreads rumors that i am anyways so why not. and plus then i would have some thing that is mine and just mine.
Yes, Of course I would still be with that person, because I have also made a promise to myself and most of all, God! I plan to have a happy marriage when I become older, and I want 4 kids....So in order to have my dreams and wishes come true, I need to keep a good head on my shoulders untill I get up to that point, so that I can have a nice cutee little family, and raise my children the "right" way!!
i think sex is good
I am one of those who would wait til marriage because thats the right thinh to do
I think it would be a wonderful thing to share the special moment with the one you actually love. I'm 16 and abstinent because I believe that you should save yourself for the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I think it would be something wonderful and special if you could save yourself for the one you actually love. I'm 16 and abstinant because I want to have that special moment on my wedding day. <3
i just turned 20, and i have a baby on the way due in February. i got pregnant when i was still a teen, but i guess technically i wont be a "teen mom." in my opinion, sex is pretty important in a relationship. when i first started having sex, at 17, it didn't seem too important, and i would most likely be with someone i liked if they wanted to be abstinent. but now that its been a few years since i lost my virginity and i have had multiple partners, its just became fun and another part of life. i couldn't see myself being with anyone without having a "sexual relationship" with them. i guess it just takes time to become comfortable with the idea that sex is just part of life, and shouldn't be that big of a deal.
I would date them because sex shouldn't be a big part of the relationship
i know whatit is tohave sex but it starts to run ur life wait tell ur married
Maybe
abstinence is the right was to stay...i have had plenty of education on sex and i have had plenty of sex ed classes and they all say to stay abstinence...please stay abstinence and if ur not u can always start over just stop now if you have started...it will work i promise!!
im a 14 year old girl i kinda want to have sex when im 15 or 16 i never did yet so
i think you should save your body for somebody that you absolutey love
I am a 17 year old guy and I feel it should be up to the girl to decide, if she wants to do it then I want her to be happy. I am not an expert though being that I have never had a girlfriend.
I would LOVE to find someone that actually believed in abstinence until marriage. I was raised to wait until marriage, but gave into pressure to have sex when I was 16. If I found a mate that wanted to wait, it would only strengthen my demeanor.
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