So, this isn’t 14th century England and you’re not betrothed to your best friend’s older brother. There’s no rush to get married, and some people aren’t even doing that anymore! So, why rush the whole parent thing, too? Right now there’s no expiration date on when you can have kids, and let’s face it, are you more excited to change a diaper or find a date to prom? I think we all know the answer.
Every week, we get a ton of questions asking everything from how to use a condom to how to talk to that cute guy in AP English. When we get a really good one, we want to share it with the world because—chances are—more than one person has the very same question. So, from time to time, we'll be sharing the best of the best (anonymously of course!)...have a question for us? Send us an email!
This week, on one of our favorite ABC Family shows, Switched At Birth, Bay and Tank almost take their relationship to the next level. Things are getting hot and heavy for them but Bay wants to put the brakes on the situation. It’s not that she doesn’t like Tank or even that it’s her first time; Bay already had sex with her old boyfriend Ty. But for some reason, she’s just not ready and doesn’t want to have sex with Tank until she’s sure of what it means to her.
People talk a LOT about sex...who's having it, who isn't having it, and everything in between. And that got us wondering about people who have had sex...
In your grandparent’s day and maybe even in your parents it wasn’t uncommon for people to wait until after they’d tied the knot to have sex. This generation is a different story. Sex is very much a part of teen culture. If you don’t believe it, read the lyrics to Katy Perry’s “Teenage Dream”. It’s in our TV shows, music, and magazines. It’d be easy to look at this generation’s obsession with sex and assume that everyone is having it, but what about those teens who still want to wait?
The temptation to have sex, especially as a teen, is no doubt great. Believe it or not, there are teen couples who don’t even kiss in order to avoid the temptation. Some might call this extreme, while others might see it as romantic. It’s easy if you both agree, but what if you like someone who has different beliefs about sex before marriage than you do? Would you respect their beliefs or drop them like a bad habit? Let us know what you think!
Sex is serious. It seems that with each coming generation it becomes less of big deal. Call me old fashioned but I feel that sex is something that shouldn’t be brushed off. Sex is the most intimate thing you can do with another person so it should still deserve your time to think about it and make sure you are making the right decision. I am in no way saying that people should never have sex or never even think about it. I believe if you feel you are ready and it is with someone you love and know you can count on then sex could be an option. But also if you are you with someone whom you love and know will be there for you and your still not ready that is perfectly normal as well.
For most teenagers, dating the wrong person or having an angry outburst are mistakes we all make, and can actually help us grow as people. But what if one bad decision as a teenager (say, having unprotected sex?) changed your life forever? This week’s Teen Mom was all about the consequences of being a young mother. The girls are faced with obstacles that might not have been there if they hadn’t gotten pregnant.
“Waiting” is a word that most teenagers despise. By definition the word means to hold back or delay action for a specific amount of time. I can speak for myself and other males in saying that “waiting” isn’t the easiest thing to do at our age, especially because hormones are raging and our bodies are drastically changing. Despite the impulsivity of the teenage male, it is difficult but important to wait and have sex.
High school is a volatile world of constantly trying to impress those around you. It sometimes feels like anything you do or say is criticized by your peers. That criticism even affects you when it comes to personal decision such as when you are ready for sex. As a guy I know the stereotypes that say “everyone is doing it” and “all guys want in a relationship is sex.” But those stereotypes are not necessarily true. Even if they appear to be true does not mean you have to buy into them.
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