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If movies taught us anything, it's that the holidays are the time to tell people how you really feel. Crushing hard? In a maybe-relationship but want to know what's going on? Ask us all your questions about crushes, love, and holiday romance.
I have a gigantic crush on my best friend's brother, who is also my brother's best friend. We agreed to be just friends but we really like each other. I really want him! Help!
This sounds like a complicated situation. It’s always tough if you want to date someone in your friend group, especially since this guy is so close to two people who are really important in your life. It sounds like you need to have two conversations, one with this guy, and one with your brother and your best friend. If you and the guy talk about your feelings and ultimately decide that you might want to try turning your friendship into a relationship, it’s important that you’re open with your friend and your brother, both of whom will likely be affected by a change in the group dynamic.I find this helpful
I have this best guy friend. I recently moved to another place really far away to begin my junior year of high school. I know that he always had a crush on me, and I knew I would miss him. We never stopped talking since I left, and I am going back to visit him during Christmas break. Is it worth it to do long distance and try to have something with him, even though I am a very jealous type?
Long distance can be really tough, but it’s definitely possible. It sounds like you are really close with this guy, and it can be really tempting to start something, especially since you’ll be with him over the holidays. The best thing that you can do is to sit down with him and talk about where your relationship is going. Be honest with each other, and talk about the challenges and benefits of long distance. You guys are best friends, and this conversation doesn’t have to change that, but it’s super important that you’re on the same page about how you’re feeling.I find this helpful
How do I get the guy to ask me out? I know he likes me because he told me and we are flirting with each other, he just won't ask me out and I really think he's the one.
Going from friendship to a relationship can be tough, especially if you guys have been friends for a while. If he told you that he likes you and you feel a connection, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t ask him out! There’s no rule that a specific person needs to ask the other out, and this guy might be nervous or shy. If you’re too nervous to ask for a solo date, ask him to hang out with a group of friends. It might be easier to start small and then tell him you had fun and would love to hang out again, but just the two of you.I find this helpful
My boyfriend lives far away from me, and i want to see him over the holidays. How can I do that with showing a little bit of creativity?
Winter is a perfect time to set up a really cute date with your boyfriend. From ice skating to sledding, there are tons of things to do outdoors if you live in a cold enough area. If not, don’t fret—we have a ton of other great date ideas for you!I find this helpful
Could I become more than friends with a guy if his relationship with his girlfriend doesn't work out?
Sure, there’s a possibility that you and this guy could have a relationship, but if he’s dating someone else, you should respect that. If you’re not into dating someone else right now, that’s totally fine, and it’s a great chance for you to take some time to focus on yourself. It’s impossible to know what the future holds, but there’s no reason that you should wait around for this guy if he has a girlfriend.
Also, from your question, it’s not clear what your relationship with this guy’s girlfriend is, but if you guys are friends, you might want to think about how this would affect her. It can be really tough when a friend dates an ex, and that could put a strain on your friendship.
How do you tell a guy you like him?
It can be really scary to tell someone that you have feelings for them. The best thing that you can do is just be honest, and let the guy know that you value him as a friend, but have been feeling lately that you guys would be good as something more. This keeps the conversation low-pressure. It’s tough to bring up, but you’ll feel a lot better once you know for sure how he feels, and the only way to figure that out is with an honest conversation.I find this helpful
I've had a crush on this girl for a long time, but I am stuck in a relationship that I no longer want to be in. Should break up with her before the holidays or after?
If you don’t like the person you’re dating, then you should break it off, period. It’s not fair to either of you to stay in a relationship where you’re not happy or are crushing on someone else. Breakups are hard, and you might feel bad doing it before the holidays, but you owe it to this girl to make the choice that will make you both happier in the end. Everyone deserves to really like the person they’re with and be really liked back in return, and it doesn’t sound like that’s the case here. It sounds like you guys have grown apart or aren’t compatible, and that’s totally okay! Relationships change, and sometimes they need to end for the good of both people, and that’s totally normal, but it’s important that you’re honest with this girl that you don’t want to be in a relationship anymore. It might seem like breaking up before the holidays is going to be hard, but the truth is that it’s going to be hard no matter when you do it, and the longer you put this off, the harder it’s going to be.I find this helpful
How can I get this guy to like me more than just a friend?
There’s no way to make someone like you—and besides, you deserve to be with someone who likes you for you (without having to convince them)! If you’re already friends with this guy, you could bring up the topic of moving from a friendship to a relationship, although there’s a possibility that he doesn’t feel the same way. On the other hand, he might not have ever thought of the possibility. The only way to know for sure how he’s feeling is to ask, even though it can be a little scary to bring that topic up. It doesn’t have to be a high pressure conversation, and it doesn’t have to change your friendship, but if you’re dying to know how he’s feeling, the best thing that you can do is just ask.I find this helpful
How should I deal with a breakup right before the holidays?
Handling a breakup, even if it’s mutual, is always tough, but it’s especially bad during the holidays, when everyone seems couple-y. If you catch yourself checking your ex’s Facebook or Twitter activity over the holiday on the daily, you might want to hide them from your feeds, even if it’s just temporarily. It can be really hard to get over someone without giving yourself a little bit of distance! If you get a holiday break, that should help a little bit with getting some distance, and it also gives you more of a chance to hang out with friends. Don’t underestimate how much your friends can help you get your mind off of your ex. Whether you’re doing something wintry and fun, like sledding and going ice skating, or if it’s just a regular movie night, hanging out with your friends can really help when getting over a breakup!I find this helpful