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Summer is over and—ugh—school is back in session. Don't panic…we have answers to all your back to school questions. Submit your q's by midnight, Thursday; we'll post answers around noon ET on Friday.
How do I talk to a boy I like?
Talking to boys can be really hard. If you’re nervous about talking to a guy that you like, try to find something that you have in common, whether it’s a class that you have together, a sports team that you both root for, or a TV show that you both obsess over. It might seem cheesy, but that’s really the best way to strike up a conversation. Everyone likes to talk about things that they enjoy, and even if it seems a little bit awkward, that might be the best way to start a conversation with this guy.I find this helpful
Should you date a guy even if he's a grade ahead of you?
Dating someone older can be a little tricky if you guys are at different places in your lives—but it’s definitely not impossible. It all comes down to you being ready, and that’s something that you have to decide for yourself. Dating someone older might mean that the guy expects more out of the relationship than you’re ready for, so you should be comfortable setting limits for what you want to do physically (if anything) in a relationship If you’re not sure, talk to a friend or a trusted adult! They might be able to talk to you more about the pros and cons of dating someone older, especially if they know your specific situation. Ultimately, it’s more important that you’re comfortable in the relationship. If you decide that you really like this guy and want to start a relationship, there’s no harm in that! If you’re nervous because this guy is more experienced, you might want to have a talk with him early on in the relationship to make sure that you guys are on the same page about your expectations. Communication is vital in a healthy relationship, and making sure that you and this guy know what the other one is comfortable with is super important.I find this helpful
How do I not get annoyed with my boyfriend always wanting to be attached to my hip at school?!
Sometimes the person who drives you the craziest is the person that you’re in a relationship with. Your boyfriend might not know that being together all the time at school is annoying, so the best thing that you can do is to be honest with him. It doesn’t have to be a negative conversation, just let him know that you love being around him, but that you need a little bit of space at school. Communication is key in any relationship, so it’s really important that you let him know what’s bothering you right away, before it turns into something that could start a fight.I find this helpful
How do you prepare for starting high school?
High school is a time of transition—but it’s also a lot of fun! For starters, wearing a favorite outfit or accessory can give you a quick confidence boost on your first day, and help you feel your best as you start a new year. Beyond that, there are a few things that you can do to prepare to put you more at ease before you start high school. First, see if you can get a copy of your schedule in advance! It might ease some anxiety to know what your days will look like before you start, and you can also start to get a sense for where your classes are. Second, make sure that you walk in prepared with the school supplies that you need! It might seem dumb, but not having to borrow a pen on your first day can make you feel more at ease and prepared as you start at a new school. Finally, there’s no substitute for experience! If you have an older sibling or friend who has already been to high school, it might make you feel a lot better to talk to them so they can tell you what to expect.I find this helpful
Why am I so anxious around my boyfriend of almost 3 months at school, I'm even waaay too terrified to kiss him even though we have before. I love him a lot but why do I get like this?
Everyone goes at their own pace in relationships, and that’s totally okay. Even if you guys have kissed before, there shouldn’t be any pressure to do it again if you don’t feel ready. Nervousness and butterflies around someone that you really like are totally normal. It might help to plan a date where you guys are doing an activity to take the pressure off of the physical stuff.
Find some activities that you may not normally do together, like going for a hike or playing mini golf. If you’re really crazy in love then you’ll get more and more comfortable with each other over time.I find this helpful
How would you keep a relationship happy and strong, even if you go to different schools, throughout the years of highschool? (With all the work, pressure, drama, trust, etc.)
Going to a different school than your significant other can be tough, but it’s possible to make things work!. High school is a busy time, so you two will have to put in some effort to see each other, especially since you go to different schools. At the beginning of the semester, you might want to compare schedules and see if you can schedule a weekly time to hang out. It doesn’t have to be a high pressure date—just making the time to hang out and play a game or watch a movie every week gives you something to look forward to, and having a set time to hang out can make it easier to be apart during the week if you’re busy. Try to make time on the weekends to go on a simple date. Doing fun things together will keep your relationship fresh and give you new things to talk about. Whenever there is a problem, find ways to communicate your concerns. Since you won’t be around each other every day, your boyfriend mayI find this helpful
Can it harm a relationship if you don't see each other often? We go to seperate schools, and my parents don't let me out of the house with my friends often.
Spending time together is important in a relationship, but if you’re busy or unable to see each other very often, it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Even though you’re close geographically, it sounds like you feel like you’re in a long distance relationship! It might help to set up times when you know you’re both free, either to talk on the phone or see each other in person. Setting up a specific date night or time to talk can take the pressure off when you’re not sure when you’ll be able to meet up during the rest of the week. Not being able to see the person in your relationship is hard and can put a strain on you, but it’s not impossible to stay in a relationship like this! It comes down to whether or not you’re getting what you need out of the relationship.
You can also try talking to your parents—let them know why the relationship is important to you, and ask if you can have a bit more responsibility when it comes to going out. They might say no, but it’s worth it to put the issue on the table in a calm way so that they know it’s something you care about and can think about that going forward.