I'm Not What Society Expects
Many relationships today seem to be viewed in the same way. Many people see relationships consisting of a man who can support himself and his girlfriend who can depend on the man. I however, disagree with this stereotype put on relationships. In my opinion, they shouldn’t be based on giving the “pants” to the man and the “skirt” to the woman. How about we throw the pants and the skirt out of the picture and co-exist as one. By that I mean the man and the woman both being able to support themselves financially, both of them coming in agreement to make decisions, and both being themselves and not what society thinks they are.
Many teenagers face the same problem when it comes to relationships. Teenagers follow the common rules of how it should be between a boyfriend and girlfriend. What we really don’t understand is that if we continue to do things the way society expects us to, we won’t be able to prepare for the real world after high school. Especially teenage girls, if you continue to depend on your boyfriend then how will you become successful after high school if he’s no longer in the picture? All teenagers should start to push against society’s standards and stereotypes because we can’t continue to be formed and molded how society expects us to be. We should be one step ahead and start to prepare ourselves for the real world. Even though many might tell us to live in the moment and enjoy our youth, we still have to keep in mind that how we live today will reflect how we live in the future.
So ladies, try not to follow the stereotypes society has given you as vulnerable, submissive, and having the minor role in the relationship. Instead, be confident, dominant, and be a strong voice together with your boyfriend. The same goes for the teenage guys; it’s okay to let the girls be themselves and for them to be able to support themselves. So in conclusion, as teenagers we shouldn’t follow what society expects us to follow in a relationship. Let’s be ourselves and learn to both to be whatever we want in a relationship.
Samuel is 15 years old and lives in California. On the weekends, he spends his time working, hanging out with friends or his girlfriend, playing sports, watching movies, going to church, and being with his family. His role model is his dad. Have a question for Samuel? Send us an email!