How to Get Your Parents to Understand

You may think your parents are lame or don’t understand you, but surprisingly, the majority of teens say that their parents’ opinion of their boyfriend or girlfriend means a lot to them.  In fact, some would go so far as to say they wouldn’t date someone their parents didn’t like. But what if you’ve met an amazing guy or girl who you’re totally into and then the “meet the parents moment” is a total bust? Is it possible to change their minds?

Maybe, but it’ll take some work on your part. If your parents have concerns about your boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s best to hear them out rather than dismissing them as lame or overprotective. Maybe the problem is truly just a misunderstanding. They thought he or she was rude and unfriendly, but you know that they’re just painfully shy and were super nervous about meeting your parents. Tell your parents why you like this person so much, what their best qualities are. It also wouldn’t hurt to throw in some of the thoughtful things they do for you.

It also helps to get them in the same room together on a regular basis. Start hanging out at your house more frequently, invite your boyfriend or girlfriend to come for dinner or to your little brother’s baseball game. The more your parents see the two of you interacting together in low pressure situations, the more apt they are to come around. Plus, if your sweetie is willing to spend time with the fam, that’s gotta earn them some points.

If you’ve tried all of these tactics and your parents still don’t approve of your boyfriend or girlfriend, you may need to take an honest look at why that is. Sometimes when we’re in a relationship, we’ve got the love blinders on, which can make it hard to see things for what they are. Your parents may think he or she treats you badly or is too controlling. Is this true? It may be hard to believe but your parents really do have your best interests at heart. Ask yourself these questions:

  • Does my boyfriend/girlfriend get upset with me if I can’t hang out all the time?
  • Are my friends mad at me because I never see them anymore?
  • Does my boyfriend/girlfriend put me down or make me feel bad about myself?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, your parents might just be on to something.


Funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Grant Number: 90-FE-0024. Any opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this material are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families.


Michelle Hainer is a freelance writer and editor whose work has appeared in numerous national publications including InStyle, The Washington Post, People, and Teen People. A former teen magazine editor, Michelle’s covered everything from pregnancy to peer pressure and is now covering all things relationship for Stay Teen. Have a question for Michelle? Send us an email!


 

WHAT OTHER TEENS ARE SAYING:

ON SEPTEMBER 15, 2014 AT 2:48 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Well I have a question and I'm really desprite. My parents don't wanna meet my boyfriend cause they scared that I'll make the same mistake they did and I mean I'm not that kinda person and I'm willing to prove to them that I really like this guy and I want to show my parents that I'm open with them but...I don't no what to do

ON SEPTEMBER 14, 2014 AT 1:17 PM, SES SAID:

Sometimes we fall inlove with the wrong people and think we are inlove when we are just in lust ....how can we tell when we are inlove?

ON SEPTEMBER 13, 2014 AT 8:46 PM, VIOLETEMBLEMX SAID:

Hey there, I've liked this guy for a short while now, and before anyone says "that isn't love" I can assure you, it is, I'm not the romantic type, so when I do finally fall in love, I recognize it. I am 15 and he is 16, my parents do not want me to date and it really makes me feel controlled. Is my life really mine? I love him so much but can only see him at school or basketball practice :( What should I do?

ON SEPTEMBER 13, 2014 AT 6:31 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

ok so im 14 and my mom thinks she knows me or knows whats best for me but shes just getting in the way an im just not a kid anymore but to her im a 5 year old girl again. She trys to help but she makes things worse.... what should i do ignore her or what because iv tryed to tlk to her...?????

ON SEPTEMBER 13, 2014 AT 4:01 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

my parents will usually allow me to go out with friends. but every time, there is strict questioning (from my dad) about who's going to be there, what times. blah, blah, blah. he gets uncomfortable if i say a boy's name. im thirteen, ive never had a boyfriend, and im not currently looking for one. i just have a lot of guy friends. my dad always wants to pick me up early so i can have dinner with my family, im sick of family time. if we agree that i can stay out for dinner, my dad will want to eat at a restaurant nearby where i am just to make it easier to pick me up. when i tell him i dont want him nearby, he gets offended. he doesn't understand why he can't. how do i stay cool and keep my friends without upsetting my dad.

ON SEPTEMBER 12, 2014 AT 12:16 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 14 and I liked this guy last year, and when mom found out I'd been texting a boy, she freaked and banned me from texting him. Ever. Again.

I can't even talk see him if mom finds out...parents, huh? Think you're just gonna go and do it with him, I mean gosh mom, I'm 14! Wait until it's legal, AT LEAST! T_T

And I mean, I wouldn't even do it until I was like 17 at least anyways. >u<

ON SEPTEMBER 11, 2014 AT 10:46 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

im 13 my mom wont let me even text to my guy friends ,I texted to my bestfriend and I told her I like this really cute guy at my horse camp and she scolded me for telling someone I like this guy. WHY ARE PARENTS SO OVER PROTECTIVE !!!!

ON SEPTEMBER 11, 2014 AT 8:57 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

My boyfriends family invited me to go to the Alabama game next weekend 5 hours away. We would be staying with his sister in her apartment. My mom won't let me go because we'd be staying the night and she doesn't want anything to happen. She says she trusts me but I don't understand why she would say no if she actually trusted me. Any help to convince her? We'd be with his family the entire time. No alone time at all which is fine with me and I would be sleeping with his mother on the couch.

ON SEPTEMBER 9, 2014 AT 12:04 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

This article was helpful but what if its before you start to go out? I really like this guy and everybody says that he likes me but my mum has expressed feeling that she thinks he is very weird and shy and my family made jokes about it. She is quite judgemental and I am worried that if he asks me out I won't know what to do. My mums opinion means a lot to me but I do like him a lot and don't know what to do if the situation arises!! Help?

ON SEPTEMBER 2, 2014 AT 3:44 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Im an asian boy, in high school, and my parents dont let me meet or text any of my friends. They are too controling, andi dont let me have a social life.

ON SEPTEMBER 2, 2014 AT 12:38 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 17 and I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years. He was a total jerk, controlling, and only cared about himself. I was miserable, but my parents liked him. I started dating this amazing guy and he's only a year older. I am so happy with him; he treats me fairly and surprises me all the time which i love. He's been over to dinner once and my parents already determined they don't like him. Yet, they don't know him. He was only late for a date once for a reason out of his control. They say I've been acting differently after seeing him. Yeah....I'm happy. They're just mad i won't let them be so controlling anymore...

ON AUGUST 25, 2014 AT 12:31 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

So my mom is still telling me I have to put my phone away at 9 o'clock and I'm going to high school what should I do about it ?

ON AUGUST 25, 2014 AT 12:26 AM, LACY TODD SAID:

I'm 12 years old, and I know for a fact I'm in love with this boy. Him and I have been dating for 8 months now. He is 13, and him and I kiss and hug, and every time I say I love him to my mom, she's like "YOUR TOO YOUNG TO LOVE!!!! DON'T EVEN SAY THAT!!!!" and it bugs me!!!! I may be young, but she needs to let me grow up. I know I love this boy with all my heart.... You people on here are probably thinking "Wtf is wrong with this girl????" But I'm SERIOUS!!!!

ON AUGUST 24, 2014 AT 9:01 AM, MARISSA MILLARD SAID:

My boyfriends parents are trying to make us stop seeing on another cuz his mom dont like me. And this started cuz his dad grounded him for a month and his mom said we could not talk to one another for that time so he got on face book with a DS and we talked and then she caught us and told him to say he could not see me and all so we started sneaking around to hang out at school well we was supposed to go to a football game we waited at my house for the football game start and it got canceled and his mom found out and said whole lot of mean things to me and then they said they would transfer him schools

ON AUGUST 20, 2014 AT 9:17 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 14, and I really like this guy and he likes me. We have dated for like 6 months but he didn't want to date me anymore because my parents didn't know and he does want to have to be in a relationship that's a secret. I don't either but I am afraid to tell my parents because I am afraid they won't like him. My mom says she doesn't like him, but she hasn't even met him. What do I do?

ON AUGUST 16, 2014 AT 3:09 AM, SHARON SAID:

im turning 16 on the 29th of december i love this guy but my mom and dad dont want me to date..well i tried to hide it from my mom but my mom digs everything..if i go to de shop i must take 5 mins after school she calls where are you...etc....its like im in jail she keeps commenting saying you're still young to have a boyfriend she doesnt want me to go out even if i say im going to see a friend she'll be like no tell that friend of yours to cumover... that pushed me to sleep out twice and i didnt like it...please help me im disparate

ON AUGUST 15, 2014 AT 12:24 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

well im 15 and i my cousin introduced me to her ex boyfriend nephew and we been talking on the phone for almost 4 years now and now just started video chatting.we never met in person because my mom is overprotective and say that im not allowed to date until im 18 But i really like to the point that i love him and he love me to ....We talked about sex in converstations but i told him that i wanted to save myself for marriege and he understood how i felt .im scared to tell my mom that i like boys and that i want to go on a date with him.she wont let me talk to boys on the phone or even look at them and i really want her approval to see him or to even date him .my dad is kinda understanding but im scared to tell about my crush.alsp the guy ilike is 15 too and bought to be 16 the fall....and he wants me to hurry and tell my parents so we can see each other and we dont care if our parents is there togather watching us we just want to see each other and be happy .WHAT SHOULD I DO........HELP ME!!!!!

ON AUGUST 14, 2014 AT 12:43 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

My mom is very confusing , she lets me go out only at times (satandsunday) at times and only for 2 hrs , she dosent understand me at all , i understand i have school matters and stuff but i am also a teen and is not all about school really i been daying for almost 3 years

ON AUGUST 14, 2014 AT 12:15 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Im 19 and have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. We met between mutual friends and instantly hit it off. After dating for a few months, he shared some of his past/history (things he now regrets) with me. Long story short my parents found out about his past through reading my text messages and facebook messages. Since then, they have made my life difficult. They want me to break up with him because of things he did before he even met me. I feel like since they found out they've been treating me and him differently, and pointing out things they wouldn't have if they didn't know about his history. I am a very open minded and forgiving person and am having a really tough time seeing their point of view. My boyfriend and I have become so close. He is my best friend. But I love my parents and want more than anything to please them and make them happy. It sucks not being able to hang out with the family and the boyfriend without feeling like everyone is judging him. My parents are constantly saying that hes not the right guy for me and to break up with him. But that is not how I feel in my heart, and I feel like it should be my decision to make. Its not like I'm 13 and weve only been together for a month or two, I'm 19 and its been over a year and my feelings for him are continuing to grow stronger. My relationship with my parents is falling apart. They think I am making bad choices and am going to regret this years from now. Everything has turned into yelling and tears. It has hurt both me and my boyfriend, and is emotionally too much for me to handle. It almost makes me want to break up with my boyfriend just so I don't have to go through this. I need HELP. I don't know what to do.

ON AUGUST 13, 2014 AT 5:15 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I have a very strict mom, which in my case ive had to sneak around to use the phone or etc to get ahold of him. It hurts me to have a relationship like this with my mom but if that's what it takes to be with him to at LEAST talk to him then that's what It will have to be.. we've talked for 4 years before him & I got together and I wish I can go to my mom & tell her all these things but the only thing she will do is flip out on me. Ive had some trouble in my past which was 2 years ago but I changed for the better & by now she should realize im on the right track.. I get straight A's, I don't sneak out (yet, if that's what I need to start doing that's what will happen) im just getting very fed up with all of this. I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE HIM . over something so small.. which I talked to him about this whole situation & he said he wills tick with me through whatever. so im okay with that I just feel he might get a little irritated with my mom & the way she is. sooner or later I know I will be making my own choices, but I think its time for my mom to let me live more freely and I do not know how to make her understand! Helpp!!

ON AUGUST 10, 2014 AT 9:37 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

My mom said I can hang out with guys but my dad he is the complete opposite and am afraid if I let him met him then he would embarrass me

ON AUGUST 7, 2014 AT 6:46 PM, ASHLEY SAID:

Me and my boyfriend been dating for almost 8 months I'm 17 and he 18 and we knew each other for 5 years before we started dating were in love with each other but my parents think I should stay focus in school n I was like I can do both I meet his parents n there are nice and they treat me like a princess lol n also were I'm a serious relationship n were waiting to have sex until after highschool which is in June 2016 but I'm parents are acting I can't wait to go back to school n see my boyfriend but I only see him after schools because we dont go to the same school

ON AUGUST 7, 2014 AT 3:43 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Thank you for your help and advice!

ON AUGUST 7, 2014 AT 12:33 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Hi x i'm 15 years old and i'm pregnant,,i want to tell my parents,, but i'm afraid they don't want me to see my bf anymore what sould i do..?

ON AUGUST 6, 2014 AT 9:07 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Im 16 I will be 17 in 3 1/2 months. My boyfriend is 18 and he will be 19 this month. Im a virgin and he know that will not be changing anytime soon. Its more than a year away from that and hes absolutely fine with that. I really like him and think he will be good for me but I am terrified of telling my parents. How can I tell them?

ON AUGUST 5, 2014 AT 7:26 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

ive been with my boyfriend for a year and seven months we are both15 we are both distance but we still manege to see each other .
we both always wanted to have a sleepover as a sleepover i mean just watch movies all night but my mom wont let me how shoulld i change her mind.

ON AUGUST 4, 2014 AT 9:42 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

IM 12, and i dont know how to tell my parents that i like guys, and that i dont think guys are gross!!! Help! I have been feeling like this since last May!!!!

ON AUGUST 2, 2014 AT 11:25 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I am 16 and so is my bf we had got caught sneaking around when we weren't supposed to see each other and my mom read my text messages to him and saw we had sex she is now not letting me see him! HELP!!!!!

ON JULY 30, 2014 AT 10:21 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 13 and my crush is 14 my parents think he's to old for me but he told me he loved me but I don't think I love him that way I think it may just be a crush. How do I tell him that? How do I get my parents to understand even tho they r all up in my business sometime times I feel like they should let go and see what I do.so far I have a txting relationship but I don't know if I'm up for it.

ON JULY 28, 2014 AT 5:06 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Hey I have a friend that is older then me but my parents don't approve of him ...they didn't even get to know him though and he is a super great guy what do I do to change their minds

ON JULY 26, 2014 AT 7:51 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 12, and my boyfriend-ish-person is 14. He's going to turn 15 before I turn 13. I met him at a boarding summer camp in Chicago and I love him so much. My friend told her boyfriend that I liked him, and he told his roommate, who was that guy. He asked me to the camp dance the next day, and I said yes. I was so excited! At the dance, he told me I looked beautiful and I got to know him a lot better. It was my first real slow dance, my first date ever, and I loved every second of it. We danced to You're Beautiful by James Blunt, and he was singing along and looking right at me. After the dance, I hugged him. The next week was the last week left of the camp, and it killed me. He's very shy, and he can't even say hi to me in the cafeteria. However, we said hi a couple of times, and every time we did my heart did a little tap dance. On the last day, my friend called him over and told him to say goodbye. He blushed and said, "Bye, Allison." I said bye as well. Right after he left though, I broke down because I wanted it to be more special. The entire day I cried, but then he came down to my floor to say goodbye again. He hugged me and I cried a bit. I'm never going to see him again because he lives in the US and I live in Korea. I can't contact him because his computer is broken, and his phone is a flip phone(I can't even call him, but if he had a smartphone he could get an app). Every night I cry myself to sleep without my parents knowing. They think it's just a camp crush. But I miss him with all my heart and soul and my entire body aches when I think of him. I know I'm really young, but I love him to death. I can't stop missing him, and tears come to my eyes whenever I think of him! I even wrote a song for him called 6,625 because we're 6,625 miles apart. Talk about a long distance relationship! I really wish he was my boyfriend, but I don't think he likes me as much as I love him!!! Help!!!

ON JULY 26, 2014 AT 12:56 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Hi. I'm an Asian girl. ( for those who doesn't know about Asian parent they are super strict not only on education but also our love life.) I'm about to turn seventeen. For the past year I met this amazing guy. I really love him. He always make me smile and make me feel free. He give me this feeling like I'm not under the control of my parent,I can do what I want. Although we really like each other in the beginning we didn't start going out until later on. At first I did what the article said. I had him over for dinner,hang out and let my parent get to know him. But after a few visits my parent start complaining. They said they smell something is going on,they asked me but I always declined the fact I like him and yes we're going out behind your back because I'm scare of my parent. I don't want to ruin how I'm like in them and I have no idea what they might do to me. Yesterday we ran into a problem again. My cousin and I went with my bf for fruit picking then hangout at his house. I saw my cousin with his phone so I didn't look for mine. We had lots of fun together not knowing the time went by very fast. By the time I found my phone is about to be 11. Parent called 13 times. Parent came to pick us up. With dad raging in the car. Kept telling me how bad it is to hangout with my friend and I should stay away from him. My friend whom they don't know is my bf. it made me feel very bad because I'm those kind of people who cares a lot about parent approval. Are we not suppose to be together in the first place? What should I do that will hopefully satisfy both my parent and myself without them overreacting?Can someone help me? I'm in a very confuse lost situation.

ON JULY 26, 2014 AT 2:19 AM, SETH SAID:

Thank u so much for this information. It really worked. My girlfriends mom acually likes me now. Again thanks

ON JULY 25, 2014 AT 10:32 PM, NOAH SAID:

My girlfriends mom want let her be around me bc some of my exes lied and said I was only with my girlfriend bc I wanted sex but that's not true. I love her to death but her mom thinks I'm bad for her daughter. What should I do to get her mom to realize that I don't want sex and that I'm saving myself for marriage.

ON JULY 24, 2014 AT 9:36 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

So my Dad is very strict with me now because my boyfriend (he is 4 years older than me) came to my house and disrespected him and his parents and yelled that he hopes that Im pregnant (it set my dad off). My bf apologized so many times but my dad still hates him. Its scary that I may be pregnant because Im 15 and the legal age of consent in my state is 16. Also my bf is at boot camp for the Marines because he needed a job so he could support us and possibly children.

ON JULY 24, 2014 AT 9:07 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Hey everybody. So, I'm pretty stuck. I'm 13 and I have a boyfriend. I love him a lot. He never puts me down, he stands up for me when people try to hurt me and he supports me. My mom wants me to wait ( I go to high school this year) until high school to get a boyfriend so I can study with him. But I love my boyfriend terribly and he loves me too. My mom doesn't know about my boyfriend though and we kissed earlier today like maybe 5 times...

ON JULY 24, 2014 AT 6:14 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 16 years old with a 17 year old boyfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. But we've know each other 7 years, we're in the same grade and know every thing about each other so we decided to date until recently my mom found out that I had a boyfriend. Everyone in my family knew except my mom, dad and one of my aunts. Upon discovering I had a boyfriend my mom told my dad. My dad is one of those dads that will give you long lectures about certain things, very strict and holds to his words. My mom told me, my dad will text or call me soon. I am very afraid to get a call from him since I will be living with him very soon. I was kind of mad with my mom for telling my dad that the only reason I wanted to live with him was for a boy (my boyfriend) that was untrue. I wanted to live with my dad to see my two younger brothers more often. I don't know what to say to my dad when he calls. He might be upset and give me a lecture about dating is not allowed in his house and possibly might take me to my boyfriends house to break up. How do I make my dad understand this relationship won't last long since it's our last year of high school?

ON JULY 19, 2014 AT 10:52 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I agree and I am a teen with a boyfriend. We've only been dating for awhile but it's like my dad is always making comments about him or just making rude indirect comments in geneal. I don't have that realationship with a parent where I feel close to them but even though I know his comments are wrong they still get to me. A lot of the times parents say things and don't realize how much they affect us and our descions. I know they want the best but they need to find a respectful and nice way to do it.

ON JULY 18, 2014 AT 5:24 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

This is really helpful! Im 15 years old, me and my boyfriend been going our for 5 months. My mom and my boyfriend know each other,but they have never had a conversation. I want my boyfriend to talk to her. He's is trying his best to like him. He is going to buy her a gift for her birthday which is about an a week. Will this also make her like my boyfriend?

ON JULY 16, 2014 AT 3:07 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

Im 15 and my current boyfriend is 17. He's met my dad but my dad doesn't allow us to hangout . Trust me ,we wont have sex until im ready. But my dad needs to understand that I love him and I want to be with him. I understand these relationships don't last forever ( some do ) but I have him now and im about to lose him because we never see eachother . How do I change this?? MY mom is fine with us but my dad isn't and I don't want to go behind my dads back while trying to earn his trust

ON JULY 14, 2014 AT 7:30 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I don't think that he does this but I have ran into some things related to this but most of the time my parents really don't care who I date that hand me the gun and say "shoot" and I fire at who I want then after they break up with me or I break up with them my dad or mom will explain everything they hated and say that's why you can try agine. Knowing me it's hard to meet people's parents beacuse I'm so active. I mean I have ADHD and so I'm a free sole. My boyfriend is suposed to be Mormon. (So much for that) he's really not but his mom blocked my numbers. Both of my numbers to be exzact. She hates me.... I don't even really know her. Thanks dumb x boyfriend.

ON JULY 11, 2014 AT 8:36 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

As a child my mother would tell me that I had more important things in life then a boyfriend. I was very mature went to a private high school with a 99.988 average and was on Varsity soccer. I would hang out with one specific guy friend in front of her a lot. And the entire time he was my boyfriend. We would hold hands and kiss slightly in front of her. Saying he was my boyfriend was no surprise to her and being that she knew we only held hands and kissed she was fine with it. Don't be shy. She's your mother!

ON JULY 10, 2014 AT 6:31 PM, KAYCEE SAID:

I like a 15 year old boy. And I am only 12. Idk how to tell my parents that we want to date. Can someone please help me?

ON JULY 10, 2014 AT 11:50 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm 15, and my boyfriend is 17. We have been dating for a month and 1 week.. And there was a lot of drama with my mom, they still haven't met and I never really talked about it with her because I'm a teen baby.. She had me at 17/18 and my father is an older man.. I think she's nervous but I dont know how to tell her. I really don't want to break up with him. Her opinion matters to me, since its the only parental opinion I have.

ON JULY 4, 2014 AT 12:12 AM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I need help my mom wont let me stay with my girlfriend shes bi polar and shy

ON JULY 3, 2014 AT 6:24 PM, TIMMERA SAID:

I am 15 and my boyfriend is 15 i meet him on kik and to come and find out my best friend now him.But he lives in Colorado and I live in Texas, i didn't want to tell my mom that i have a boyfriend. Because i tho that she would be pissed off at me so i didn't tell her. Will one night she come in my room and i was texting him and she read all of the message thank god that there was nothing bad but she did see that he said " I love you babe" and I said I love you too <3<3 and my mom was not happy at all she took my phone away . oh btw she took away my phone Friday anyways today Thursday July 3 my mom give me my phone back for 2 hours because i had to babysit my baby sister sooo i texted him and we talk until my mom come home and she read all the text message!!!!! and now she thinks i am laying about everything and that "he doesnt live here in Texas he lives in Colorado." PLZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!! what do i do i really want my phone back.

ON JULY 3, 2014 AT 4:31 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

I'm thirteen, and I've liked the same boy for almost two years now. Recently, he's admitted his feelings for me, and we've started dating. I know that we're young, and that most relationships that start at our age don't last, but we honestly are different. I know that every couple probably thinks that, but unlike most kids our age we are faithful, have good role models, and are honest and committed to each other.

However, his mother thinks that we're too young to date, and she won't let us go out alone. She has consented to letting us go out in a group of three or more. And I sort of understand where she's coming from, but I just wish she would let us go out alone. We're not indecent and untrustworthy in any way. However, because we can't go out alone, we keep having to ask friends to go with us. When they can't make it, we just can't go out at all.

It's really infuriating, and we don't know what to do. We're hoping that in eighth grade things will get easier. Until then we're just going to keep trying. But if we don't have friends, and no one is available, we're unable to see each other at all. I just don't know what to do. We really care about each other, and we know that we'll last if we're only given the chance.

ON JULY 2, 2014 AT 10:30 PM, ANONYMOUS SAID:

But what if my mother won't let me see him even after they met...one day he came to my house and she was not there so she got me into trouble..and now I can't see him ever again..I can't make her understand that I love him, and he loves me back. She doesn't trust me anymore after that day and now I can't even go out with friends without her thinking I am going to go see him..what should I do to make her understand that I love him and she can not and will not separate us??

ON JULY 2, 2014 AT 3:00 PM, STARCRUSADER SAID:

Okay~! Her's a long one for you. I need help. And I don't wanna go to my parents about it. There's this guy, let's call him 'Bert", that I sorta like. I broke up with my previous boyfriend not too long ago. But I've liked 'Bert' for a looong time. Also, one of my best friends likes him, but he said he really likes me... I don't know what to do! This sorta thing just... tears you apart. You know?

ON JULY 1, 2014 AT 4:39 PM, DESTINY SAID:

My boyfriend lives in another state then me and its about a 17 hour drive. It took me long to tell my mom I had a boyfriend, because we don't talk about this kind of stuff. But when I did, I texted her that I had a boyfriend. Well about the start of the year, my boyfriend encouraged me to ask her for us to go to the state he lives in, and it took me awhile to tell her, and when I did she said she was planning on going in the summer. Well its summer now and she hasn't told me anything about us going to meet him... I feel like she isn't going to let us, and she knows how much he means to me. I don't know if I want to bring it up because I don't like talking about this stuff to her, we just don't have that kind of relationship (she doesn't even tell me she has a boyfriend until she brings him home with her and all of a sudden hes living with us, talking about marrying my mom, and I don't even know him). What we've been dating for about a year and 8 months and we have a really good relationship with each other, even if we argue a lot, but that's just our personalities. I'm 16 and he's 17 almost 18. I really want to see him because I can't really date someone fully until we actually meet and have physical contact. From a young age my mom and I haven't really had a connection to talk about boys like that, when she brings it up I get nervous and try to avoid the conversation.

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