How Do You Know You're An Adult?
Being an adult is more than turning 18 or 21 or 35. But what is it exactly? We asked some teens to tell us what they think being an adult is all about and how they'll know when they're adults. Here's what they said:
I will know that I am an adult when I can live on my own, when I am fully capable of surviving independently. I will no longer depend on shelter, food, transportation, and money from my parents. I feel that an adult does not mean that you just turn eighteen. For me, being an adult means someone older than eighteen who is capable of living without expenses from one’s parents. I think that many people, especially teenagers, think being an adult means turning eighteen because you are “free”. However, just like Uncle Ben from Spiderman says, “With great power comes great responsibility.” As one gets older, one obtains more responsibility. So, when a teenager turns eighteen, they have a lot of responsibility; responsibilities such as paying for your own car, home, school, food, and other necessities. To me, if a teenager can take those responsibilities than they are considered an adult. I honestly believe that many Hispanic teenagers who are eighteen or older are not adults because most of them, at least in my neighborhood, still depend on their parents. I plan on being an adult when I turn eighteen and graduate high school. Hopefully, I can receive scholarships to pay for my college education and dorm costs. If that works, then I will consider myself an adult because my parents will not be paying for anything.
I’ll really know that I’m an adult when I find my passion in life. What I mean by “passion in life” is what you want to do in life. For example when you’re little you want to be a fireman, policeman, doctor, teacher, etc… As you get older you start to see what you are really interested on. One you hit high school and you have a career that really calls your attention, that’s when I think you are mature because you have a future plan ahead of you, you are thinking college, and you know that you are doing the right decision.
I have no idea how I’ll know I’m really an adult. I asked my friends around me when they all thought they would feel like a grown up and they all said “I don’t think you can ever stop growing,” “You may get old but you never stop growing spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.” For me I found that to be very inspirational, when you think about it…It’s true, there is not a point in your life that someone says you’re an adult. I think that it’s just a way to label people and target the specific age group.
I think that I will consider myself an adult when I feel old enough, have kids, am married, and have a job that I love. I feel this way because there is no evidence that you’re an adult when you turn a certain age. One thing I think people say is that you’re an adult when your brain fully matures and it has reached its peak, but boys and girls mature at different rates and you can’t make an assumption on all girls and all boys. Another thing is that everyone has a different personality, biochemistry, and hormones.
How do you think you'll know you're an adult? Is it age? Having a family? A nice car? A home? Tell us what you think in the comments!